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The following article is a repost of a brand new blog from Bitchless Bride, as featured by The Huffington Post.   Bitchless Bride is widely known for telling it how it is whether you like it or not, and when this elusive source speaks, the Industry listens!   Enjoy this piece which offers the BEST Advice from the BEST Wedding Vendors in Boston!!

The BEST Advice from the BEST Wedding Vendors in Boston

Bridey, today’s post is like hitting the jackpot of wedding planning. SERIOUSLY. If you are recently engaged or are in the midst of planning your wedding, stop what you’re doing, and focus because you are about to be educated by the BEST in the wedding biz! I asked some of my absolute FAVORITE vendors in the Boston area to share the best piece of advice about planning a wedding, and these peeps? Well, they completely spilled the beans. I mean… There is so much wedding planning goodness in this post, that I could fucking chew it!!!

I rarely say cheesy shit like this, but this is a must read!! So, are you ready to learn? Ready to say, “Thank you, Bitchless Bride!!” Good! You’re welcome!

Wedding Planners:

When you are newly engaged, you tend to become inundated with information overload and it can be daunting to say the least. My advice to newly-engaged couples is to forgo the route of hiring all of your vendors until you’ve secured the right, professional, experienced wedding planner. Some couples feel it’s best to hire a “day of” coordinator and do the rest themselves, only to learn how much money could have been easily saved by avoiding costly mistakes and uneducated decisions along the way. The right planner should be your guide, your educator, your confidant, your representative along the way and you need to put your trust into this person as they do this every day and truly look out for your best interests from the start.

Paula Marrero ~ Marrero Events

Don’t panic, it’s all overwhelming at first but it’s important to book the top 3 first-top priorities (if you’re not working with a planner) are to find your venue, photographer and band–then breathe! I also advise brides to wait to design the space until about 6 months before the wedding… You’ll be able to have a couple months thinking about ideas, pinning on Pinterest , etc… I find that so many of my clients go in with one idea and once they’ve relaxed and see what is out there or trending in their wedding year they change their idea of what their wedding looks like–so ultimately they get what they want instead of what they thought they wanted–big difference!

Amy Kimball ~ Amy Kimball Events

Invitations:

Invitations are the introduction of your wedding to your friends and family; they set the tone for the event. You can’t just get a quote as there are a lot of factors to consider such as quantity, quality, type of inserts, type of print, etc. There is a lot more involved then most people realize. So, plan accordingly.

Mara Weiner ~ Allure Invitations

Cake:

Be your own “bride” …don’t worry about what family, in-laws, friends & co-workers want for YOUR WEDDING. Follow what YOU have wanted & dreamed about.

Paula Kirrane ~ Icing on the Cake

Entertainment:

Once your venue is booked, the next step is to lock in your entertainment. In order to get the best DJ or band out there, you have to book well in advance. Remember, first and foremost? Your guests are going to remember if they had a good time. That’s why good entertainment is vital.

Always ask your entertainment vendor about their other recommended services. This is how you get the best deals without making a laundry list of phone calls. They may already have what you need and could save you time and money without sacrificing quality.

Mike Amado ~ Entertainment Specialists

Photographers:

Lately couples are asking me if they should do the “first look”. My answer is always YES! The first reveal is always so sweet. The moment is far more emotion and allows for a more intimate/private moment with just the couple.

Some brides envision this grand moment when they are walking down the aisle, and the groom is sobbing… However, in reality, in a traditional formal setting with 200 people looking at you… The groom often looks like a deer in head lights. Not at all the magical moment you think it will be! So yes, do a first look!

Lauren Killian ~ Person + Killian Photography

Don’t do a winter e-session! People look freezing, and are super uncomfortable. Nothing like having dirty snow and branches coming out of everyone’s heads! Wait until the spring when the temperatures are higher, and the trees start to bloom. I highly suggest April-November.

~ Anonymous Photographer

Cinematography:

1. Make sure that your photographer and videographer work well as a team. Even better, choose a team where your photographer and videographer have worked together and enjoy the experience.

2. Ask your prospective wedding film maker how they operate during the wedding day. Will they have lights on their cameras? Will they be on the dance floor circling the couple during the first dance? Will they stand behind the officiant during the ceremony – Or will they stake out spots based on experience and fade into the decor?

3. Ask your toasters to limit toasts to under 5 minutes. 3 is even better. There’s not much they can say (that won’t be dumb or embarrassing) after a couple of minutes.

4. Invite your guests to leave their phones and cameras in their pockets or purses. You’re paying for pros to document your wedding – don’t let the amateurs get in the way!

5. When considering wedding cinematography, check out the sound as well as the images of potential pros. Capturing pristine sound of your grandfather’s blessing and knowing how to integrate it with music and image, is a complex art form. Don’t settle for pretty pictures if you already have a photographer you love. When it comes to film making, sound is 60% or more.

6. If you desperately want a top notch film maker to capture your wedding, and have a limited budget, consider one of the following:

a. Grab pics from the HD / 24 Frames per second of the video capture and forego the photographer.

b. Hire the film maker you want and see if you can work out a payment plan that works for you.

c. Opt for the best film maker you can afford, ask them to produce a short highlights now, and wait until you’ve financially recovered to have them edit the feature film.

Naomi Raiselle ~ Generations Cinemastories

Florist:

The Best way to trim your budget is to trim you guest list (it literally makes every line item more affordable – period, the end)! (AMEN!!!!!!)

If you “absolutely love and have to have peonies” – know that you absolutely MUST select a wedding date in May or early-June!

Bring as few people to each and every appointment that you book … the less opinions, the less stressed out you will be!

~ Anonymous Florist

And there you have it… You’re welcome, bridey!!! Now, all you have to do is listen to the professionals trying to help you.

Why “Discounts” Hurt Weddings

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Everyone loves a good discount. A bargain. A value. But value is relative and comes in a lot of forms. What we offer our clients is a value because the service is great.  It works best when our clients who hire us, trust us, want to work with us, allow us to do what we do best!   We provide a client experience, not just a service. But a bargain, now that’s a little different. When I go to Nordstrom Rack, I feel accomplished because I didn’t spend as much on the Kate Spade as if I were to go to the Kate Spade store. But we all know the bag I got on discount was last season’s model. It’s discounted because it’s not the best that Kate Spade currently offers. And that’s how discounts should work- discounts are provided when the quality is not the same or the service is pared down.

But even then, when potential clients want to pare down services for a better rate, it makes me nervous for them.   Yes, we are a year out from your wedding, you want to do this, you can do this… awesome, right?   Not awesome. When you hit that three month count down, your whole world will be begging you to hire help at any cost. As a professional planner myself, I couldn’t and wouldn’t go through it again on my own for my own wedding. The emotional toll is exhausting.  I’ve been doing this for over 10 years on a full-time basis.  I know what you don’t know and, more importantly, what you don’t know that you don’t know. We cannot pare down our service or process– in doing so, we lose quality, your day suffers and even our own reputation is at stake. Our vendor and venue colleagues expect a certain level of service when working with us and we aim to provide it. Mainly, because it is what is best for you and the one chance you have for a flawless wedding day.

To be totally and fairly honest, when I’m asked to give a discount, I’m a bit offended.  These days, I think blogs train brides to ask for discounts so I don’t take it personally.  But I do raise my eyebrows a bit. Can you imagine if I were to walk into my dentist and ask for a discount? That’s just not how things work. We are a real business that offers real services, real education, real guidance and – most importantly – real ability to make split-second judgement calls on your wedding day on your behalf.   In addition to what you see, there is so much that you don’t see from our office rent, staff, taxes, insurance, marketing, and so on.  What we excel in may not be a tangible product that you can hold in your hand, but it’s still a service … a very valuable service that is a product of years of experience, knowledge, education, and being in the trenches.

So for these reasons and more, we also do not request discounts from the vendors we work with.  I know right here I may have lost half of you because the whole reason you are here is because The Knot or some other pretty blog told you that your wedding planner would secure some discounts for you.  Here is the real deal ladies and gentlemen … when asking a vendor for a discount, what they hear is “I do not value your service” and what they then do is provide weaker service. YES, some of our vendors are able to provide discounts and – more importantly – extra services and/or products for the same rate, because having us leading the charge means they don’t have to do as much leg work and can eliminate some of their hours and maybe even staffing. So while it’s not a discount, you will certainly be getting the most you can for your money.

The best way for me to save you money is for you to allow me to do my job in the first place – connect you with the right vendors, create a feasible timeline for the weekend, act as the conduit between you and your vendors to ensure that everyone is playing well in the sandbox and to guarantee the most flawless of wedding days.   By asking for a discount, by securing a “day of” coordinator vs. hiring a full-service consultant to guide you from making poor initial choices is the safest way we can save you hundreds, if not thousands of dollars.  Which we do.  Every day.  For every wedding.   Remember that we have been educating ourselves for years on what you are trying to research in one month.

The bottom line is that when you value your vendors, they value you and put your wedding first. Your goal is to be someone’s priority and being that means making them a priority as well. As great as they sound in theory, I promise you with all of my heart, discounts will negatively impact your wedding day.  Things WILL go wrong on your wedding day; it’s inevitable.   But how the professional and experienced vendors that you hire and respect enough to pay their requested fee will handle is is where you get everything you pay for.

While I think it’s important to educate you on how discounts can negatively impact you, I also think it’s important for you to know that your vendors are real people with real hearts. We really do care! We aren’t ‘no’ people and we want to help. We may not be able to give discounts but talk to us about your hesitations, we may have some other tricks up our sleeves that can still accomplish your goals. Remember, the better your wedding day is for you, the better it is for us. Talking about money is hard, we are looking for the best value, but the reality is that we are all on the same team. We are all invested in making your wedding day the best day of your lives thus far!   Please trust in the vendors you hire!

As said so eloquently by www.marreroevents.com and www.heavenlydayevents.com