The 5 Things Wedding Guests Should Never Do

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You’ve most likely been to your fair share of weddings.  Not enough?  Too many?  Either way, let this post serve as a gentle reminder of what is and is not appropriate when attending weddings.

Wearing White … As the saying goes, “It’s the Bride’s Day”, so never ever wear white to a wedding unless white attire is specifically requested (as in white tie, all white wedding, etc.).  Save that ultra-fabulous white dress for another event – any other event – just not a wedding.   And on that note, always try to wear something respectful to a wedding, something a bit formal and classic, not too revealing, too short, or too sheer!  Remember … It’s the Bride’s Day to shine.

Bringing an Extra Guest … It’s never “okay” to bring an uninvited guest, especially when you were invited or replied solo.  Not only is it completely rude and insulting to the Bride and Groom, it also disorganizes the timeline and flow of the event since the guest seating is already set and the staff will need to hold up service in order to accommodate this unexpected “guest”.   The couple will likely be charged an additional fee when the venue does their final guest count.  Someone will indeed notice.

Sneaking a Peek at the Bride … You may be a close friend, coworker, neighbor or even relative of the Bride but if you aren’t a mother of the bride or in the bridal party, you have absolutely no right “peeking” at the Bride before the ceremony or – gasp – visiting her bridal suite before the ceremony begins.  The Bride most likely needs this private time to prepare her nerves for the day to come.

Bar Rush … A formal wedding is a completely different atmosphere than the friendly parties you are accustomed to attending with the Bride and Groom.  This is their day, surrounded by their closest friends and family, celebrating the first day of the rest of their lives.  Please don’t drink as if it’s your 21st birthday.   Pace yourself, respect yourself and the couple and their families, and most importantly remember that just because it’s an open bar it doesn’t mean it’s reason to try all those drinks you always intended to try but couldn’t justify the cost.

Don’t Speak … If you are not asked to speak at the wedding, please don’t voluntarily grab the microphone and ad lib some of your favorite stories of the Groom back when you were ne’er do well teenagers.  Save those stories for the bachelor party and allow the family and bridal party to offer their wishes for the Couple.  Remember that this is a formal event, intended to provide special memories for years to come.